Selfie: how does it make us keep people away

The Selfie phenomenon increases exponentially and shows no signs of falling in intensity, and according to Infogram, in Social Media, over one million self-image photos are raised daily, most of them aged 18-24. Psychologist Lenke Janus is of the opinion that self-photos do not focus on us, even if that photo is about us, but on what others think about us.

The ultimate goal of this phenomenon is, in fact, to test social acceptance and popularity. Furthermore, the specialist believes that self-esteem is used by adolescents to get to know each other better, mainly through the eyes of others. In the literature it is considered that a fair picture about us is composed of what we believe about us, what our friends and family think of us and of course what the distant knowledge and the unknown about us think.

Selfie: 3 negative effects

People who make their own self are more narcissistic and less empathetic. “Men aged between 18 and 40, among those who pose a lot of self-esteem, there is a larger number of narcissistic personalities, ie extremely self-loving and self-centered, but also individuals with psychopathic features , who tend to act impulsively, without empathy. Selfie is not a cause of these traits, but an effect, an expression of these personality traits, “explains psychologist Lenke Iuhoş.

Shout help. According to the specialist, obsessive-compulsive selfishies, 3-4-10 per day, are real cries of help, and the lack of social acceptance can also lead to serious depression. “Selfie offers an unparalleled opportunity to notice the timely cry of adolescents. Many youngsters try to draw attention to them with well-chosen pictures because they are unable to do so in real life. A lot of information can be extracted from a photo, which can not be said – position, clothes, location, etc. All these elements want to announce a certain social status about them, even if it is often counterfeit, aspirational. “

It does not help us make friends. The Selfie phenomenon is a means by which we keep people at a distance, because it builds a distorted image about us and wants to bring to light only our positive aspects.

“Although the apparent goal is better social interaction, the self-esteem is, paradoxically, a boomerang of social interactions, a means by which we keep people away. Almost every time, the self-image builds a distorted image about us, because it wants to exaggerate only our positive aspects in light, and in the case of face-to-face interactions, people will see that the image they have done about we are wrong and the number of faults exceeds the net number of positive aspects that we are trying to promote on the internet. Thus, exaggerated self-image, a bombastic image that we are trying to build on in the long term in Social Media, can have totally negative effects on our social relationships in the real world, “concludes the psychologist.

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